sitting on the edge of the sandbox, biting my tongue

April 13, 2012

Time for a New First Lady?

Filed under: parenting, politics — Tags: , , , — edge of the sandbox @ 9:08 am

Working overtime to turn out that Sarah Palin demographic, aren’t we?  I doubt there is a better way to boost the voter turn out than to tell them that they are worthless.  CNN commentator Hilary Rosen summarily insulted millions of mothers when she declared that Ann Romney didn’t work a day in her life.  Romney is a mother of five, and as we all know, parenting is basically a form of idling.

The Romney family

Possibly too picture perfect

Raising five boys is not exactly my idea of rest.  When we had our first, DH used to joke that he goes to work to relax.  Children are demanding physically and emotionally, sleepless nights, aching arms and all that.  Then there are readjustments.  I remember shortly after my first was born I missed a new mom meet up because the baby peed on the changing table, and I just had to disinfect half the room.  A few years down the road, and I laugh at how freaked out I used to be by bodily fluids.

Your typical mother spends her days with somebody just as smart as she is who is willing and able to dedicate all his time to figuring out how to outsmart her.  Our bosses had other ways to keep themselves busy.  Even when everything is peachy-rosy, children pepper us with questions, like “How do you know when to put macaroni into the water, and how do you know when they are done, and why?  Why?  Why?”  And me, I’m just trying to figure out where to move the progeny so that she doesn’t end up spilling boiling water all over herself.

There are no charts, no grades, no yearly evaluations, nothing that tells her how well she’s doing and where the whole project is heading.  The responsibility is enormous, too.  It’s not like I’m drafting some silly letter.  Unlike in business, if I fail, I can’t start over again, at least not with the same child.

Of course, Barack Obama had to pipe in to offer his invaluable opinion on motherhood.  Turns out, Michelle didn’t have “the luxury” of staying home.  The questionable truth-value of his statement aside, it has “class envy” written all over: Yes, not every man can support a family on his salary alone, but we should applaud for Mitt for being able to do so.

Ann Romney raised her large family, setting an example of fulfilling motherhood, but what about Michelle Obama?  FLOTUS thought it necessary to inform the country about her daughter’s weight gain, which was an exploitative way to launch her anti-obesity campaign.  She raised a few eyebrows when she let her thirteen year-old daughter vacation abroad alone with some freinds.  Is spending vacations with one’s minor children too much of “a luxury” for the first family to afford?  Well, no; not when the First Lady is busying herself trying to figure out how to get the government to play daddy.

Earlier this year, FLOTUS rolled out a $3.2 billion healthy lunch program aimed to improve nutrition in the nation’s public  schools.  Some of her recommendations, like low sodium content were never scientifically proven to have positive health effects, but never mind.  Since the funds necessary to cover the program are at most 7% of Obama’s beloved Buffer tax, it shouldn’t be a big deal.  No mother will lose sleep worrying whether or not her children and grandchildren will be able to pay for Michelle’s school lunch program.

It’s true that obesity has reached epidemic proportions in this country, but it is really a symptom of a larger social malice.  There are too many single moms out there, and obese children often come from broken families.  A large number of working moms are for one reason or another unable to feed their children good food.  In any event, students are known to reject healthier alternatives.  It looks like family food culture is what probably matters most in combating obesity.  Maybe it’s time to hear what a stay at home mom can say about this issue.



  1. Hmmm… none of Ann Romney’s children were overweight, and based on the family photographs of her and Mitt with all their grandkids, none of the grandkids are overweight either. Ann apparently knows something Michelle doesn’t. 🙂

    (Not that I think Ann has any interest in dictating to the mothers of America how they ought to raise/feed their kids.)

    Comment by Bob — April 13, 2012 @ 11:34 am

  2. I can’t stand it when the left tries to characterize the decision to be one income as a class division, ie “only the rich can afford to do that anyway” which is what they fall back on everytime they are caught heaping scorn on a SAHM. In order to say that with a straight face, they have to pretend that large swaths of middle class SAHMs like me and you simply don’t exist.

    I’m hoping we prove our existance at the ballot box.

    Great post.

    Comment by nooneofanyimport — April 13, 2012 @ 1:58 pm

  3. If Liberals want to take on a mother of 5, a Multiple sclerosis sufferer, and a breast cancer survivor then I say go for it!

    How can so many women claim Democrats have their best interests at heart?

    Comment by Harrison — April 13, 2012 @ 6:59 pm

  4. The problem that so many families have is budgeting for two incomes. It’s a matter of planning, not “luxury”. Once a couple has a morgage, they don’t have a lot of flexibility. These days so many families are underwater, there is nothing they can do short of walking away from the house that would allow moms to stay home. We are underwater too, and our budgeting is pretty tight, but we are lukcy that my husband can support us.
    But “luxury”? BO should ask his wife what a “luxury” is.

    Comment by edge of the sandbox — April 13, 2012 @ 11:10 pm

    • I am not a homeowner however regardless of the assumed market value of one’s home as long as you can afford the payments it shouldn’t matter whether you are upside down or not. If you were counting on paying your bills by refinancing all the time you can’t afford a home anyway. And if it is your home the value shouldn’t matter because you’ll be living in it. My mother has lived in her home since 1964 so she never cared about what it was worth.

      Comment by Harrison — April 15, 2012 @ 11:30 pm

      • What I think prevents so many mothers from being able to raise their kids when they are little is that they had unrealistic expectations when they bought their houses. They expected to pay for the mortgage with two incomes. The husband’s income alone won’t cover it, and since they are underwater there is not much they can do. I know some people who actually rented out their property and moved to a much more modest apartment. This is not a very popular choice, as you can imagine. These families can afford their houses, they just can’t afford both the house *and* stay at home motherhood, and they are stuck with the property.

        Comment by edge of the sandbox — April 16, 2012 @ 2:01 pm

        • Careful planning is key to having the best chance for things to turn out well.

          I know people who bought with interest only loans. They are getting reamed now… their property is worthless AND their payments tripled AND they lived life high on the hog because their payments were so small.

          Comment by Harrison — April 16, 2012 @ 10:09 pm

  5. Yeah, you can tell the Left is slinking away from this line of attack real fast.

    You can’t be the party that disparages motherhood and stay-at-home moms. It’s like taking a stand against sunshine or being anti-puppies. Its stupid politics for over-educated libs.

    Comment by KingShamus — April 14, 2012 @ 4:39 am

  6. I still cannot fathom the stupidity behind that statement. My mother was a stay-at-home mother and, god rest her soul, I will always have more respect for her than for a working woman without children.

    Comment by Infidel de Manahatta — April 16, 2012 @ 5:55 am

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